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New Beginnings, cute and fluffy. For now. [Dec. 13th, 2013|03:11 pm]
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Is there anything as heartening and hopeful as a brand spanking new engagement book/planner? You take it out of the package, or assemble it, and there it is: full of opportunities – things to do, things to plan, another year in which you think THIS year I’m going to get my expletive together and plan and prioritize and not get overwhelmed. This is the year I’m going to schedule more stuff for ME.

Why, you can even start plugging in events that you know are already set and it’s all neat and orderly and non-conflict-y. Although you can detect a slight whiff of something…despair?....wafting in like the ghost smell of a dead mouse somewhere in the walls. The faint carrion tang of “you know that you haven’t even plugged in all the obligations yet and already almost half the weekends are full with something, right?”

But there’s weeks before the new year starts yet, and a month of smelling Christmas tree in the house and right now you cling to the satisfaction that you have already decided to move one annual event to an every other year thing and this coming year is a skip year, so hey, ONE more weekend that’s MINE. In complete denial that you’ve already volunteered to set up a “girl’s weekend” for your mother, aunts and female cousins, and the fun/free time to work/obligation rate will probably be the same. But at least it will be different!

Okay, I’m going to change tracks before I tarnish all the hope on my brand new engagement book. And yes, it’s paper. I’m going to get one of those bumper stickers that says “You can take my pen and paper when you can pry it out of my cold, dead fingers.” Hey, I’m not a complete luddite. I’m all Google calendaring, and setting up electronic reminders. But let’s be realistic. That’s one tiny damn screen there. And my near vision is not likely to get any better. At any point in time, I’m juggling work, personal and volunteer priorities. Keeping calendars, contacts, to-do lists, reminders, notes, and learnings for the future. It’s hard to juggle all of that on a large monitor, much less a 4x2 screen. With non-conductive ham fingers.

And honestly, I’m more likely to remember something if I write it down, as opposed to type it. I don’t know whether that’s a product of my having grown up writing and that’s the way the pathways are laid down in my brain – so kids growing up with a keyboard as their primary device, are they better able to remember things typed than written? Or it could just be me: I memorize things by writing them down. It’s the only way I’ve ever been able to remember scripts is to write the dialogue, over and over again. I tried typing and it just doesn’t work. Except the fifth time, I can type it way faster. But only my fingers seem to be memorizing, not my brain. Even a shopping list – as long as I’ve written the list down, I’m likely to remember all, or at least most of it. Although maybe I should start writing ON the list: don’t forget to bring the damn list to the store, moron. Because, of course, the thing I tend to forget on the list is ALWAYS the primary reason I had to go to the store in the first place.

[User Picture]From: fountaingirl
2013-12-13 11:49 pm (UTC)
Mine is paper too. I use the amazingly amazing Planner Pad, I don't ever want to have to use a different kind. These things save my ass regularly.

Which do you use?

What would happen if you went through, right now, with a PEN and marked some weekends as "taken" and then leave them alone and don't give them away to anyone else? Not even your mom or your friends or the Faire or anything?

It is beyond time for you to have a break.
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[User Picture]From: terribleturnip
2013-12-16 05:43 pm (UTC)
My brain would always know those weren't REALLY taken....I am my own worst enemy in this regard, so I know that the only fix is to just consciously make better choices.

I use the Staples Arc book. Because really, all I need is a calendar and pages on which to write/store stuff. I have a section for work, for faire, for personal, and then a to-do list that they sort of feed. I'm really good at doing "this one or that one" prioritizing, so if I've got hard deadlines on calendar and then a running to-do list, that works. But the book also stores: journal notes, gift ideas, phone numbers, and random things that I need to remember, like filter sizes for the upstairs and downstairs furnaces, and, the space in my cabinet is X by Y by Z, so I need a shelving unit that fits in that space. Hell, I even keep a list of "things you can do while sitting on your ass watching television" because there are always a bunch of little things -- glue the handle back on the green mug, mend the sleeve on that blouse, fix the jewelry holder thingy -- that can be done while ostensibly relaxing. It's more like a back-up brain for me.

(And before anyone tells me that I should just sit and watch television and not try to fit tasks in...for the record, I do sometimes just do that. But after about an hour, I start to get twitchy. It's better if I get something done and then relax into slothitude.)
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[User Picture]From: sequinedlovenun
2013-12-15 03:02 am (UTC)
no, writing things down imbeds them in our brains better---or so say a bunch of scientists quoted by my French prof.
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[User Picture]From: quislet
2013-12-16 03:39 pm (UTC)
As per Dr. Whyte at a recent brain science talk I went to, the smartphone is killing our memories, giving us fewer opportunities to succeed at remembering and thus not strengthening the specific neurons needed to remember those same details. Writing definitely helps memory, connecting another set of nerve pathways (those used to drive finger and wrist muscles) to the memory.

That being said, I gave up on trying to remember calendar details long ago. I was never very good at it, and my scheduling has gotten much more complicated over the years. I have since outsourced that discrete activity to Google. ;)
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[User Picture]From: terribleturnip
2013-12-16 05:47 pm (UTC)
You certainly converted me to google calendar! And the efficient part of brain rebels a bit, every Monday, when I carve out 15 minutes to open up the google calendar, the outlook/work calendar and the hardcopy calendar in my planner and make sure they all synch up at least two weeks out. On the one hand, it seems silly, why not one calendar for all...on the other hand, by the time I'm done reviewing all three and writing down the google and outlook appts in my hardcopy calendar? I don't really have to refer to any of them for the week, because, well, now it's all pretty well lodged in my brain.
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